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On my Original Muse

In On Muse-of-the-Month, On Style on August 1, 2012 at 4:33 pm

The muse is back! And this month, I feel inspired by my original muse, my first muse. Her unimitable style stands out in a sea of people, always. I consistently see this woman wearing something that’s unique, and distinctly styled.

Though I’m sure this wasn’t the first time I actually saw Bhargavaa, my first memory of her is in this pale yellow (or was it white?) dress. Somewhere around August 7, 2007, I presume? She was saying she absolutely could not exit the classroom because she knew she was too well dressed for her birthday week – that could potentially be problematic with seniors, in front of whom most freshmen would rather remain relatively invisible.

Though this memory is vague, I remember my first reaction was the furthest from affinity. Still – somehow, and I honestly think our friendship was simply meant to be, we were best friends by Diwali that year – and have remained so ever since.

Ms. Bhargava’s ideal day? A swim in the morning, followed by a shopping spree with a yummy lunch – then she’d like to relax with a nice head/shoulder massage, and a pedicure to seal it off. I laughed at this, mostly because minus the swim, our birthday weeks and other special days were invariably filled with these activities. Sometimes we added in a movie.

I’ve learned a lot from her poised personality over the years.

“If you believe in yourself, you’re one up on confidence already – even if you think you’ll have to fake it this time!”

~Meha Bhargava

I feel incredibly excited to present my August muse, the original muse, Meha Bhargava.

Meha Bhargava "the original muse"

Meha Bhargava, “the original muse”

AKG

On Introducing the Sporty Muse, Arshia Arora

In On Muse-of-the-Month, On Personality, On Shopping, On Style on April 10, 2012 at 7:23 pm

She’s Riley to my Alan.
Her mother calls her Buttons, for her eyes. This woman shares my inability to find and see things right under her nose.
Others still modify her name into “Arsh, Arshi, and Arshu.”
Some of her closest friends call her “happy camper” because of her indomitable spirit, her love for life, and unending enthusiasm, joy, and energy.

She’s a little ambidextrous, and her application of that skill in nail art leaves me slightly jealous, yet mesmerized. Another skill that leaves me a little jealous is the insane knowledge bank of random trivia and fun facts that resides in her brain. She pulls them out like a magician pulls out the unending pocket square of ribbons – randomly. And of course, I take advice from her with graphic design all the time – no jealousy there – only acceptance of her greater skill in that field.

To the casual eye, at a quick glance, people may classify Arshia as a tomboy. But it really isn’t true. The truth is that Arshia borrows from the boys and incorporates their pieces into her style effortlessly. She softens the look with bracelets, charms, fabulous nails, and other feminine details.

An ideal day in Arshia’s life is a great, fulfilling morning and afternoon doing work she loves, followed by an evening spent with the people she loves and her dog. Her philosophy is simple.

“Be happy and always have someone around you to share that moment with.”

Arshia inspires me to dream, to list 21 things I want to do in my life. And she inspires me to share my joy with everyone I love when a dream comes true.

Arshia's Bucket List

Arshia's Bucket List, with the red dotted numbers already complete.

If I painted an abstract to represent her, it would be formed by:

structured, simple, classic, and clean lines. These lines would be completely random, zig zagging from point to point, turning in the opposite direction even when in might seem logical to continue forward. No clutter – lots of white space. Black & White, followed up with bright bursts of color. No pastel shades – only the brightest hues of red, navy, sky blue, and green.

It gives Arshia pleasure to be there for the people in her life. She’s my number 1 supporter and is always by my side whenever I need her, no matter how much I may annoy, baffle, or try her patience. She’s there, always, to offer a wonderful and beautiful balance of friendship and constructive criticism. She’s always a team player first, “a good sport”, and amazingly active. She’s sporty, in her style, in her life, and in the actual game.

Sporty Muse, Arshia Arora

Introducing the Sporty Muse, Arshia Arora

Themuseflash presents to you, our April muse, the Sporty Muse, Arshia Arora. “Miss” just doesn’t sound right – our muse is not the type to be a damsel in distress. In fact, she’d be the one doing the saving in a novel.

AKG

On Being Comfortable

In On Muse-of-the-Month, On Personality, On the Self on March 31, 2012 at 2:08 pm

Soumya Parker inspires me to be comfortable, not only in my skin and being, but in my life and with myself. When asked about the staples in her closet, she says,

“Kurta, jeans (black and blue), T- shirt, Stoles/dupattas, one great pair of indian footwear and one pair of good black heels. And I can’t live without my earrings! Also pajamas man! What is life without comfortable pajamas?”

I couldn’t agree more. People, asked about their ideal days, will give you a laundry list of things that will happen. And that’s perfectly fine, because rarely to do people admit that a day of peaceful me-time is just what they need. Miss Parker’s ideal day is “[lounging] alone with a good book and nibbling on an unending supply of good food.” Such simplicity and lack of duplicity is rare. I honestly can’t define what an ideal day for me will be, but I’m encouraged to openly embrace and admit whatever I find that may be.

Notice this around you – people look the way they feel, even with the makeup. When I think back to the NIFT years, it’s apparent to me that Soumya has always been effortless. She never apologizes for who she is and moves with grace even when she is behaving like a monkey in the courtyard. Soumya is confident, and has always been able to move with poise. I recognize this more now, as I have become more comfortable in my own skin as I’ve grown into it.

There are actually a few stages here – there is the uncomfortable, neutral, and the comfortable. To be clear, saying “I’m not uncomfortable” is not the same as “being comfortable”. It’s okay wherever you may be in that, but let’s make an active decision to become entirely comfortable in our skins.

1) Be good to yourself, and to other people. Start to focus on what you absolutely love about yourself. Instead of seeing the zit or blemish when you look in the mirror, look for the best in you.

2) Give that woman in the mirror some support. Get your best friends together – and instead of lamenting about how “fat” you are or how scragly your hair looks, raise a toast to what’s fabulous about each of you. No more bashing.

3) Image matters. No matter how much we claim otherwise, there is a definite “feel-good” quality to looking in the mirror and liking what you see. So, find fashions, and hairstyles, and makeup that fit you. Don’t try to fit into styles – find the one that works best for you.

4) #3 actually doesn’t just apply to fashion; it applies to anything in life if you want to excel. Find out what’s a good fit for you. As Debbie Ford often says, “Anything that you can’t embrace about yourself gets to use you. Any part of you that you deny, hide, or suppress will come back to use you or haunt you. You can’t get rid of it completely – ever. Either you’re going to use it, or it’s going to use you. […] There is a reason you are the way you are. In order to deliver the gift that you’re meant to deliver to the world, [to your family, to whomever or wherever] – you must be at peace with yourself.

5) Work through your mistakes – trust me, I make the most mistakes in my family. I recognize that it’s not always easy, but the goal is to learn from your mistakes and move forward. You WILL feel better about yourself, having done this. And then, with your family and loved ones, feel free enough to be honest about your shortcomings and your talents. They will love you no matter what.

6) Get to know yourself. Use a journal to log your thoughts, freely. Or whatever helps you become one in your thoughts and actions. Recognize your strengths and weaknesses, and the opportunities you have. That’s right. Do the SWOT analysis for yourself, or your style, or anything. Whatever works.

7) Move your body. Dance, cycle, run, walk, swim, jump rope, or do yoga. Do whatever it is that you enjoy doing to use your body constructively. Not only will you feel more comfortable in it, you will also grow/age gracefully.

8) Prioritize yourself – Love yourself – Treat yourself. Take a bubble bath, or treat yourself to a massage and steam room. Buy lotion in a scent you love. Eat dark chocolate, or whatever makes you feel good inside. Take time for yourself – it will do wonders. Create a personal space and time for “me time”. Everyone needs time for themselves – it’s not a luxury, but a necessity. To feel at home in your own skin, taking time and space for yourself (however that may be), is important.

9) Always always – drink lots of water. It has healing powers that we will never truly be able to recognize.

10) As my father always taught me, laugh loudly. And as mother always says, stop slouching and make eye contact!

AKG

On Genuinity

In On Muse-of-the-Month, On Personality, On Style on March 15, 2012 at 7:48 am

I don’t know if she ever realizes it, but Miss Parker is concise, clever, and succint – she has just enough humor and sweetness to balance any snark and sarcasm. She’s the best friend, with designer flair, and the kindest heart. You are just as likely to find her chasing (or being chased by) her friends, or very seriously planning, designing, or presenting creative work. Most people have a personality that fits best either in a professional, or personal realm – Soumya manages to be herself in both situations. She inspires me to understand and learn how to separate and merge the two effectively and naturally.

It’s obvious in day-to-day interactions with Miss Parker that she’s a total drama queen – she’s constantly entertaining. She’s full of energy, and her dynamism is contagious. Despite her many talents, she is modest to a fault – regardless of her “industry child status”.

On Genuinity - Soumya Parker

On Genuinity - put together with help from Alka Narayan, BFOM (Best Friend of Muse)

Though I knew all of this about Soumya, I wondered what drew people most to her – beyond her obvious creative genius. I realized it is because of her beautiful personality and simplicity. She makes people feel special, and she’s the one who is always there for you. Even though she isn’t a social butterfly, Soumya Parker is often the link that binds two people or more together. She’s unashamed and completely comfortable in her own skin. When she wants something, she blatantly admits it – and she always, always has a genuine compliment for you. And that’s really one of the main reasons Soumya is so stylish.

Genuinity never goes out of fashion, or style.

AKG

On Friendship with Soumya Parker

In On Entertainment, On Muse-of-the-Month, On Personality, On Style on March 3, 2012 at 8:33 pm

Entertainment shows and movies have central themes – surgery, lawyers, criminal justice, diagnostic medicine, newsrooms, the white house, romance, relationships, etc. Whatever it may be about, the theme that endears the characters to the audience is that of friendship. It’s always interesting to see how different characters with completely different backgrounds and personalities become friends.

In Sex and the City, the Carrie, Samantha, Charlotte, and Miranda were practically soulmates. Grey’s Anatomy has Meredith and Christina – they are each other’s “person” for better and for worse. Seinfeld, How I Met Your Mother, and Friends have been based around these friendships. Even entertainment not based in the real world – such as Harry Potter and Toy Story is incomplete without the unbreakable triumphant friendships. There’s Harry, Ron, & Hermione; Buzz and Woody; Jerry and George.

The world always needs true friends – most of us either want to find or cherish (Read: should cherish) “our person/people”. In both the reel life, and in reality, there is often someone who truly rejoices in other’s happiness. I find that person in Soumya Parker. If and when anything good happens to the people around her, you can count on her to be happy for them – to multiply their excitement. “I love your latest post!”…or…”Did you hear about her amazing project?!”…or…”Yay! She got a new job!”…or…”My brother is such a genius!”

People who know Soumya Parker will agree that it’s common to hear her say things like these. Miss Soumya Parker inspires me to delight in the success and joyful moments of those around me. She’s been an incredible support for me in everything I’ve done, and I hope she knows that she is appreciated beyond words.

Maybe you too, should feel inspired, to reach out to the people you love, and let them know how excited you are for them and their achievement(s). Be truly happy for your loved ones – this is a great component of real personality, and style.

AKG

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