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On V For Vanity

In On Fall/Winter, On Style on December 23, 2011 at 4:10 am

I always laugh a little when I hear or read about “the biting cold” my friends and family in California or India are facing. Try -6 and -12 temperatures, on good days. The sun is so deceptive, shining through the window in your home. Believe me; it does not mean you’re in for a warm day. The Boston winter is here. More posts about beautiful warm layers upcoming. Today, is all about my discovery of A&F sweatpants.

Abercrombie & Fitch makes sweatpants that have a perfect butt fit, with a banded hem. There are options for the looser kinds. But they have these skinny and super skinny sweatpants that are warm, comfortable, AND they look good – just like leggings. Believe me. It’s sweat-pant perfection.

(Take a look here if you’re interested.)

We were walking around one evening to get some fresh air during the week before finals week when a friend of mine joked that I was being “vain” – I had refused to walk into a restaurant wearing these.

I realized then, that, – vanity, in small doses, is important. If I didn’t have a little bit of vanity, I would never want to play with my clothes, and experiment with the different ways I could wear my new black sequin dress, or my sleeveless tweed dress. I wouldn’t care about what stared me back in the mirror.

Without vanity, I wouldn’t care about any weight gain, or about a bad haircut. While I strongly dislike the men, women, girls, and/or boys who are truly vain, I appreciate modest vanity. It’s what gives people the oomph.

C’mon people, have a little a pride. Try a new hairstyle – find a new nail color. Find something that makes you feel a little brighter, something that puts a bounce in your step. Like a new shoe? Or even if it’s the new Lancôme mascara. Sample something new. I found this fur poncho, a fitted blazer with a knotted back, and wine colored shoe – all by BCBGMaxazria. I’m in love.

Find out what makes you feel better about “you”. Perhaps change the light in your bathroom? What about taking a DIY tip to your old bag or shoe? Or experimenting with new eye shadow?

There’s a world full of options – have a little fun with this tempered vanity. Like the sweat-pants, it’s perfect in small doses.


On everyone’s current favorite scapegoat, Facebook

In On Technology on December 12, 2011 at 8:31 pm

These days, “facebook” has become fashionable. Everyone’s doing it. The “cool kids” have the most friends, and the coolest posts get the most likes, so on and so forth.

I dislike when people blame objects for their own failings, unless it’s traffic – but even then, my father explained to me that I can technically plan for traffic as well.

But anyway – you know when people say – “It was that TV show! If that hadn’t been on, I would’ve gotten my work done.” Or, “it was that ad. I wouldn’t have bought that dress otherwise.”

Um, hello? Who forced you to watch it? Who said you had to buy it? Whatever happened to the concept of self-control?

A recent post by Daniel Gulati on the Harvard Business Review made me think about how people just needed something new to blame. First internet, then email, and now Facebook.

Facebook is making us miserable by Daniel Gulati

Did the person who Mr. Daniel Gulati interviewed who almost got run over by a car ever consider that maybe it wasn’t Facebook’s fault that he was facebooking while crossing the street?

Really, people.

Did the interviewees who cannot produce quality output ever consider that maybe it was their own fault that they couldn’t focus on their tasks, and were instead Facebooking? I wonder if Mr. Gulati considered interviewing the people who use Facebook and email for positive marketing results before writing this incredibly uninformed and biased article.

I would like to ask the people who decided to Facebook chat instead of meeting up if Facebook was physically keeping them from leaving the house. I would like to point out that people around the world still communicate by snail-mail regularly. That didn’t die because of Facebook. People just find it easier and quicker to communicate via email and and Facebook.

I think that facebookers, such as myself, should accept blame for not being able to be productive human beings who interact in real-time with people instead of just meeting them virtually – if that is the case.

As for the people who are unhappy because they compare themselves to other people and feel unhappy when others are getting married, promoted, or just happier – that unhappiness is not created by Facebook. It just makes this inherent quality of jealousy in those people obvious.

I would also like to point out that if someone’s unhappy because you’re happy – they’re not really your friend – so your Facebook friend list needs reconsideration perhaps?

I will admit that increase in virtual communication adds to stress because of the proportional decrease in real time human interaction. But that is not the fault of email or Facebook. It is partially the fault of the user, and mostly the fault of our globalized world.

But I would like to stress that it is ultimately up to the user to use the technology in whichever way he or she pleases. Facebook is not the root cause of any of the problems that people face today. None. Neither is the internet, and nor is email.

I don’t understand how people fail to realize the ridiculousness of their blame. It’s like a drug addict blaming the drug’s existence for his or her addiction. Or if I started to blame the existence of shoes for my shoe collection. I await the day that people will recognize this.

Trust me. Facebook is not what makes you miserable.


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